On the other hand I think the whole ‘dating faster’ ‘don’t waste time’ thing can only be taken so far

If you are going to have relationships with multiple women then that’s a whole other ballgame and on that one you only require disclosure of the type of relationship, not dictating that she must like it

I guess in comparison to your generation think of it as faster dating, instead of waiting for 3 months to find you aren’t compatible, you find out within 3 weeks.

I think this is much better, life is too short to spend it with people that seemed great at the time but when you finally get to know them after months and months of dating you find out they aren’t for you.

It’s learning faster about them sexually but it doesn’t mean you learn about whether you’re compatible with them in all ways faster. If sex is extremely important to your filtering out partners and whether or not you ‘waste time’ with them it makes sense.

Sex will for many people change the dynamic of the relationship so it’s not just dating faster, it’s changing how you date. Also if you extend the idea you could just start a date asking a person to lay bare their thoughts on children, make them meet your parents (because if they hate your dad they’re unsuitable), ask them to strip off so you can make sure they have no deformities or anything that would turn you off and request a complete family tree and police check.

We don’t do this because this kind of kills off building the great relationship. Building a good relationship takes time, you can’t just bypass everything and get to the nuts and bolts and expect it to be just as good.

My rule when dating was if sex was involved then I wouldn’t date others or if you have ‘the talk’. I found a lot of my friends were really weird about dating, at one stage I was dating 3 people and in the getting to know them stage and they found the idea deplorable.

I want to remove all the women with these sorts of agendas out of my life, and keep the ones who just enjoy spending time with me.

Ok this is different to the early stages of dating when you’re getting to know the person. That is called polyamory.

Yes, but if you have not mentioned the non-exclusivity and any one of them sees you with some other guy/girl, then the consequences can be unbearable. That is to say, if you are just in a stage of know-how then it is OK to date multiple people but if you cross that stage then dating multiple people and getting involved with them physically will count in betrayal to the other. So, you hur man möter Spanish kvinnor should better stay out of the blame and stick to one (you find most appropriate) I would suggest.

if you are just in a stage of know-how then it is OK to date multiple people but if you cross that stage then dating multiple people and getting involved with them physically will count in betrayal to the other.

What I have an issue with is women using sex as a bargaining chip to get some kind of exclusive “relationship” however so defined

Some people suggest that the ‘line’ is when you get involved physically. But also if you have not got involved physically but have been seeing each other a fair amount of time there may be some expectations growing . eg ideas you are very serious, a couple and that may mean exclusivity to some people. If you’re not sure I’d clarify because if you are seen dating someone else the other person could still be very hurt.